10 Wonderful Lessons I Learned Through Divorce

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In the meantime, read the 10 Wonderful Lessons I learned through divorce. My hope is that you never have to learn them:)

Kassandra Vaughn, the ROI Coch

#1- You never fix a problem by condemning it

#2- Financial independence is the best choice while married and a required step once divorced; choose it early so you don't feel pressured to attain it later

#3- It takes 2 to make a marriage work but only one to watch it fall apart

#4- Your best strategy for filing for divorce is to marry the right person so you never have to

#5- To marry the right person the first time around, you have to be the right person BEFORE you meet them (we attract who we are; whole attracts whole; broken attracts broken)

#6- Love doesn't leave; the willingness to love is sent away

#7- Anyone who would rather control you than co-create with you isn't interested in a partnership; they've decided upon having a dictatorship

#8- Just because you get a divorce, it doesn't mean the relationship ends. There's no such thing as marriage amnesia.

#9- Regret, guilt, and shame have no place in relationships. All 3 require you to believe in a very big lie: that things should've gone or should go differently. The truth is that it's all perfect; everything happens for a reason

#10- Your ex-spouse has been and will always be one of your greatest life teachers. Respect and appreciate them for every opportunity you've been given to see exactly what you DON'T want.