Who Would You Be Without Your Story?

Every person comes to life with a story they are comfortable telling. Without even knowing it, we use it as a calling card to anyone and everyone we encounter. It's the "this is who I am because of where I've come from story." What is your story? Think back to the last two or three people you met for the first time. How did you describe yourself to them? What did you tell them about your life? Now think of your best friends. What recurring theme or idea do you find yourself discussing with them when it comes to the topic of your life? Here are a few examples:

"My father left before I was born."
"I'm a single mom."
"I've had a slew of bad relationships."
"People are always so jealous of me."
"I was raised by perfectionist parents. Nothing was ever good enough."
"I can't live without my coffee."
"Always the bridesmaid, never the bride."
"I'm a loner."
"People just don't get me."

And the list of "stories" could go on forever. Although we are raised with these experiences and create stories to help make sense of our lives, there is something so disempowering about summarizing who you are based on what you've been through. You are not your experiences. You are not your parents. You are not your failed relationships. You are not your FICO score. You are whatever you choose to be RIGHT NOW. The key to being free of your story is to stop telling it. As a great author once said, "If you don't have a story, you don't have to live up to it." Stop telling your story and see what blossoms in your life.