What's On My Mind...

Saturday, March 21, 2010
The last few weeks have been intriguing. I've realized, in myself, patterns I thought were long broken. I see things now that have been fear-based that, for a time, I thought were logic grounded... and I'm ready and willing to change. I opened up Marianne Williamson's "Enchanted Love" to a random page and a prayer popped up. I'm going to hold onto this prayer for the next week or so. It fits in perfectly with the next CHOOSE YOU course I'll be teaching:

"Dear God, I don't wish to be a child anymore. I don't wish to be held back anymore. I don't wish to waste my life. Deliver me to new realms, repair me where I am broken, and ready my heart for everything. Thank you, God. Amen."
- Marianne Williamson, Enchanted Love

Friday, February 13, 2009

Dealing With Sexual Guilt

Too many people carry around loads of sexual guilt.

Why did I sleep with that person?
How could he/she cheate on me? What did I do wrong?
Why is my body so fat and undesirable?
How can I enjoy sex when I'm not even sure he/she really wants me for me?
When is this over? I hate it.
Why do I feel like I have to do it to keep him/her pacified?
When am I going to feel sexy again?
Why did that happen to me as a child?
Why am I so scared?
Why am I afraid to try new things and why, when I do, do I feel cheap?

And the list goes on and on. Guilt, of any kind, is useless, wasted emotion but when it's sexual, it's destructive. Sexual guilt will make you afraid of your own body. It will leave you feeling numb or out of control, supersexual or asexual.

When you carry around sexual guilt, you feel dirty, unequipped to handle sex, disinterested, grossed out, helpless, fearful and any combination of the above.

There is another choice.

You can choose to release the past, not judge or blame yourself for it and begin to love every aspect of you, including your sexuality.

You can start by looking yourself in the mirror and affirming "I am willing to forgive myself and others." Say it as many times as you need to.

Then you can move onto "I accept and love myself." When you're ready, you can start affirming, "I give love deeply and fully and I receive love deeply and fully." You can move into (when you're ready): I am a sexual, sensual being with so much love and nurturing to give and receive."
Look yourself in the eyes and spend as many days, months and nights as you need to until you beileve it. Focus on the good in you, release the past and bask in the moment. If you do this, sexual guilt will be history.

In my work on myself and with clients, I've found Louise L. Hay's book, You Can Heal Your Life (Gift Edition) , to be extremely helpful in releasing the past and moving into self love. If it's not in your library, this is a must have book!