In one of my favorite books, Enchanted Love: The Mystical Power Of Intimate Relationships
, Marianne Williamson says the following, "In learning to show up more fully for one person, we learn to show up more fully for life."
Love is about reciprocity, the lessons we teach as well as the lessons we learn in EVERY human interaction.
Are you looking at love like it's a romper room or a battlefield?
As long as we are spending our time defending our right to be loved in a certain way, we're missing the experience of love in all ways. No matter how difficult the journey seems, you were meant to experience certain lessons with this person. It's a healing and an understanding that you could not come to on your own.
That doesn't mean you stay in the relationship forever. The length of your journey together is up to the BOTH of you. What it does mean is that you choose what kind of experience this is. If you want to spend all your time blaming the other person for what they did wrong or shaming them into "acting" right, go ahead but you are not their lover; you are that person's jailer.
If you choose to spend your time, in this relationship, discovering where your fears of intimacy come from, why this person brings up, for you, pain from the past, and why, no matter how hard you try, you don't trust them to love you and keep you safe, now you're on an enchanted journey of self-love and discovery. No matter how the relationship ends, you will come out the better for it.
This is what I teach about in the CHOOSE YOU! 4 Week Online Workshop (http://chooseyouworkshops.blogspot.com/): how to heal from the past, experience self-love, and step into a transformation of your life in the future. It's about moving beyond your limiting beliefs to a place where you really love yourself and, in doing so, have the capacity to unconditionally love others.
In a chapter called "Removing the Ghosts", Marianne says, "None of us are who we were yesterday; we're certainly not who we were ten years ago. In fact, we're not even who we were five minutes ago. In every instant, we are blessed by God with the opportunity to reinvent ourselves, to transform our entire lives through grace and commitment and action and love. May we become, in our romances, as gracious to each other as God is gracious to both of us."
If you'd like to understand relationships on a deeper, more meaningful level, if you need to forgive the past but don't know how, if you long for an enchanted love but don't know if it's possible, read Enchanted Love: The Mystical Power Of Intimate Relationships
. It will change your life.
What's On My Mind...
Saturday, March 21, 2010
The last few weeks have been intriguing. I've realized, in myself, patterns I thought were long broken. I see things now that have been fear-based that, for a time, I thought were logic grounded... and I'm ready and willing to change. I opened up Marianne Williamson's "Enchanted Love" to a random page and a prayer popped up. I'm going to hold onto this prayer for the next week or so. It fits in perfectly with the next CHOOSE YOU course I'll be teaching:
"Dear God, I don't wish to be a child anymore. I don't wish to be held back anymore. I don't wish to waste my life. Deliver me to new realms, repair me where I am broken, and ready my heart for everything. Thank you, God. Amen."
- Marianne Williamson, Enchanted Love
The last few weeks have been intriguing. I've realized, in myself, patterns I thought were long broken. I see things now that have been fear-based that, for a time, I thought were logic grounded... and I'm ready and willing to change. I opened up Marianne Williamson's "Enchanted Love" to a random page and a prayer popped up. I'm going to hold onto this prayer for the next week or so. It fits in perfectly with the next CHOOSE YOU course I'll be teaching:
"Dear God, I don't wish to be a child anymore. I don't wish to be held back anymore. I don't wish to waste my life. Deliver me to new realms, repair me where I am broken, and ready my heart for everything. Thank you, God. Amen."
- Marianne Williamson, Enchanted Love
Friday, February 13, 2009
Partnership In Love
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